You should never be ashamed of a job well done.
Is this true of every job?
I believe there is no shame in scrubbing toilets or scraping gum out from under tables. Working in a fast food restaurant is honest, if not well paying, work.
But what about a job that you don't tell your friends or family about? A job you are so proud of that you use a pseudonym. I am talking about the sex industry. Pornography and prostitution. Is this a field you want your children to aspire to?
I believe if everyone was completely honest, they would answer, "No." I remember hearing a bit by Chris Rock where he said, "I mean, they don't grade fathers. But if your daughter's a stripper, you f%*&#d up."
Even people who work in the industry and claim it is legitimate work, well, I cannot imagine it is truly fulfilling a lifelong dream. And if that is your lifelong dream, I would implore you to seek professional help.
Last week I read an article by a young woman who is a student at Duke University in North Carolina. She was coming out as a porn "star" because she had been recognized by a fellow student who began harassing her and revealing her secret.
She went on about how sex workers are disrespected because of what they do for a living. I think the fact that one has chosen to become a sex worker is a sign that he or she has no self respect. We teach our daughters that no one will love and respect them if they don't first love and respect themselves. She claimed that this is puritanical thinking; sexual purity is not important and sex is nothing more than a physical act.
Then why should a rape victim feel violated? It's only sex. It's not as though it means anything. While she claims that she does not participate in rape fantasy porn, she does not see a problem with feeding this fetish.
In this follow-up article, she claims that sex workers are shamed and the consumers are celebrated. Actually, I don't see this happening. In my circle of the world, pornography is as shameful for the consumer as the performer. Porn addiction is a serious problem that is tearing apart marriages. If she is right, and consumers are being lauded, then that is what needs to change and not the other way around. Don't try to tell me that the sex industry isn't revered. Mainstream movies seek to push the envelope, getting as close to porn as they can without actually getting that rating that would keep them out of the major theaters. Magazines feature models and actresses in many manners of undress, being sure to conceal just enough to keep them in the checkout lines, barely. Sex work isn't nearly as looked down upon as she'd like us to believe. Here's a thought. If people would stop supplying, the consumers wouldn't have anything to consume. But we all know that isn't going to happen. It has absolutely NOTHING to do with female sexual liberation and everything to do with playing on the sin nature of mankind-lust and greed take center stage here.
This young woman said she chose to go into porn to afford her $60,000 a year tuition. She doesn't want to graduate in debt. Well, I applaud her for this. It makes sense. I do not recall her saying what her major is, but it is obviously important enough that she is willing to sell her body to get a degree. And if she can't get a job because of her background in the sex industry, at least she won't have to worry about paying any pesky student loans. She did say that anyone who wouldn't hire her because of her previous "experience" is just discriminating.
Think about the meaning of that word. It is good to have discriminating taste, so why is it bad to discriminate when choosing who will represent your business or group? The Humane Society is not going to choose Michael Vick to be their spokesperson any more than The Right to Life League would ask the president of Planned Parenthood to represent them.
I don't know what is more upsetting: that this young lady might believe these lies she spouts or that she doesn't, and continues to do porn anyway.
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